Megan’s Story

With the announcement today of new investment in Post-Natal Mental Health Services , Megan from our customer service team has written an article for our website on this topic, sharing her story. We have also just launched a Post-Natal Depression discussion thread on our Sleep Forum, where mums can connect with mums in a similar space.

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Megan’s Story

I’m one of the Sleep Store customer services team and my journey back to work has taken 5 long years. I never wanted to be a full time SAHM but ended up there by default, unable to work, debilitated by PND and anxiety which paralysed me.

At my deepest depression I planned my exit, making sure I sure my husband knew to cut my daughters finger nails on Fridays after I was gone – I was sure they would be better off without me but still micromanging the smallest details!

BUT! I’ve come a long way I now speak openly about it and encourage everyone to do some quick checks to take care of theirmental health, it can strike anyone and by the time you are able to admit you need help the road back up can be tough.

My first check is, the mood barometer, everyone has one and it’s important to figure out what it is, for example mine is the washing pile, when it’s massive and I don’t care I know I need to take a few steps to get back on track. There are lots of places to find ways to get back on track and this is a good start.

http://www.mothersmatter.co.nz/Post-Natal-Depression/Symptoms.asp
http://www.mothersmatter.co.nz/Treatments/Selfcare.asp

Facebook and Pinterest are good ways to keep your support network going but limit “screen time” especially before bed, and don’t use them as a way to avoid real time contact with people.

Getting back to basics like prioritising good sleep and nutrition is vital. The nutrition is especially important when you can’t get the good sleep part, and lets face it, we all became part of the Sleep Store community from lack of it….and I promise when we are packing your orders it drives us every single day. For milder ‘baby blues’ it’s still important to use self care and other methods covered in this article.
http://www.thesleepstore.co.nz/sleep-information/parenting/parenting-articles/the-baby-blues

Other helpful sites:
Mothers Matter – an informed resource covering all the basics and delves in to the nitty gritty of various medication and therapy options.
http://www.mothersmatter.co.nz/

This American site has a good balance of commentary, support and information and it’s given PND a greater profile in the media.
http://www.postpartumprogress.com/find-moms-like-you

If breastfeeding has/isn’t working out I have found this online group run by an experienced counsellor, years after the experience they articulated all the things you feel when it hasn’t gone well and you’re struggling with the emotion that comes with it.
https://www.facebook.com/supportive.community.breastfeeding.loss

Big hugs to anyone out there who is struggling right now.

Megan

 

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SIDS and Bedsharing: A Pediatrician’s Perspective

This is an interesting read on the recent co-sleeping debate/research, from a Blog I really respect.

The Science of Mom

I’ve been thinking about bedsharing and sleep safety for the last few months. I have devoted an entire chapter of my book to this topic. Not only is it an important question for parents, but it’s an issue with so much complexity — wrinkles and folds of factors like breastfeeding, bonding, instinct, culture, and just plain reality.

I think it is vitally important to understand the relationship between bedsharing behavior and risk of SIDS and accidental deaths. But our ability to tease apart every factor that might impact sleep safety is imperfect; there will always be factors that aren’t quantified in these studies, not to mention the fact that case control studies have some inherent limitations. You’ve probably heard about the study published this week by Carpenter et al. in BMJ. It combines 5 historic case control data sets from Europe, the U.K., and Australasia to specifically look at…

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Sleep Deprivation: The Dark Side of Parenting

This is an excellent post. Night night everyone

The Science of Mom

Sleep deprivation is an inevitable part of having a baby, and surely that’s been true throughout the history of our species. But we also live in a culture that seems to take some amount of pride in getting by on little sleep. We think of sleep as time wasted, as lost productivity. We forget – or ignore – the biological necessity of sleep.

Becoming a parent only further stretches our already-too-thin sleep allotments. Newborn babies wake frequently to feed or for comfort during the night. We try to “sleep when the baby sleeps” and piece it together to come up with a reasonable amount, but it often doesn’t feel sufficient. And now more than ever, new parents are really isolated as they make this transition; they don’t have much in the way of backup resources to help with the 24/7 job of caring for a baby.

This month, the…

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