Megan’s Story

With the announcement today of new investment in Post-Natal Mental Health Services , Megan from our customer service team has written an article for our website on this topic, sharing her story. We have also just launched a Post-Natal Depression discussion thread on our Sleep Forum, where mums can connect with mums in a similar space.

You can join the discussion here:

 

Megan’s Story

I’m one of the Sleep Store customer services team and my journey back to work has taken 5 long years. I never wanted to be a full time SAHM but ended up there by default, unable to work, debilitated by PND and anxiety which paralysed me.

At my deepest depression I planned my exit, making sure I sure my husband knew to cut my daughters finger nails on Fridays after I was gone – I was sure they would be better off without me but still micromanging the smallest details!

BUT! I’ve come a long way I now speak openly about it and encourage everyone to do some quick checks to take care of theirmental health, it can strike anyone and by the time you are able to admit you need help the road back up can be tough.

My first check is, the mood barometer, everyone has one and it’s important to figure out what it is, for example mine is the washing pile, when it’s massive and I don’t care I know I need to take a few steps to get back on track. There are lots of places to find ways to get back on track and this is a good start.

http://www.mothersmatter.co.nz/Post-Natal-Depression/Symptoms.asp
http://www.mothersmatter.co.nz/Treatments/Selfcare.asp

Facebook and Pinterest are good ways to keep your support network going but limit “screen time” especially before bed, and don’t use them as a way to avoid real time contact with people.

Getting back to basics like prioritising good sleep and nutrition is vital. The nutrition is especially important when you can’t get the good sleep part, and lets face it, we all became part of the Sleep Store community from lack of it….and I promise when we are packing your orders it drives us every single day. For milder ‘baby blues’ it’s still important to use self care and other methods covered in this article.
http://www.thesleepstore.co.nz/sleep-information/parenting/parenting-articles/the-baby-blues

Other helpful sites:
Mothers Matter – an informed resource covering all the basics and delves in to the nitty gritty of various medication and therapy options.
http://www.mothersmatter.co.nz/

This American site has a good balance of commentary, support and information and it’s given PND a greater profile in the media.
http://www.postpartumprogress.com/find-moms-like-you

If breastfeeding has/isn’t working out I have found this online group run by an experienced counsellor, years after the experience they articulated all the things you feel when it hasn’t gone well and you’re struggling with the emotion that comes with it.
https://www.facebook.com/supportive.community.breastfeeding.loss

Big hugs to anyone out there who is struggling right now.

Megan

 

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2 thoughts on “Megan’s Story

  1. This is an amazingly similar story to myself. The worst feeling is the complete aloneness that you feel. I felt as if no one actually noticed. I thought I felt so terrible and so down that surely someone had noticed. I had to get myself help in the end and I still somehow hold my husband and family in a negative light because they didn’t help. I keep thinking of the year I wasted with my daughter. Thanks for being so open!

  2. Thanks Tammy, it’s selfish in a way because it helps me too!
    I remember thinking ‘why doesn’t someone just ask me if I ‘m ok”! It’s quite hard to start the dialogue if no one brings it up…..and no one did, I told the plunket nurse later, “you should have asked if I was ok, I looked like I was but I really wasn’t – you need to ask everyone!”. It made me mad because I was at the point I realised things weren’t right but didn’t know what to do.

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